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Things I HAVE done before 30

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to-do-listAs you may have noticed, I am turning 30 this year (and if you haven’t you’re either new to this blog – in which case Hiii! – or you really don’t pay attention to what you read…). Naturally, this means the people I went to school with are also turning 30, and being almost the youngest in my year, this means most of my old classmates get to go through it before me.

Recently, yet another guy I knew in high school turned 30 (no, I’m not American. The majority of Northumberland still has first, middle and high schools).  This was his Facebook status on the big day (grammar corrected by me, because I couldn’t bring myself to sully my blog with things like “iv” instead of “I’ve” and a complete lack of full stops/capital letters!) :

Thanks so much for the birthday wishes people. I’ve had a class day with *name of his wife* being spoilt. I’ve been thinking about life and all the things I’ve done and achieved and I haven’t done too bad. Danced for my country all over the world, won and competed in some of the biggest competitions in the world, acted in Byker Grove lol, appeared at the Palladium in Oliver and Les Miserables with some of the best actors, done the Royal Variety Show etc etc. I’m only saying this as they are things I’m very proud to have done, but in the 30 years I’ve been here my two biggest achievements are 1- marrying the girl of my dreams and 2- being able to raise and be part of my amazing little girl’s life. I’m a very lucky person :)

My first reaction on reading all that was sadness. My heart immediately sank and I thought “why is it always other people that get to feel like that? When will it be my turn to get what I want?”. But one of the things I want to do differently as I attempt to make some changes in my life is to finally learn think positively, so I stopped myself in my tracks and tried to look at things differently. OK, I may not have met anyone famous (let alone acted with them!), been in any international competitions (mostly because I’ve never wanted to) or even done the two things he is most happy about, namely married the love of my life and created a child. But that doesn’t mean my years on this planet have been wasted. I’ve just done different things – and I’m sure there are plenty that other people I went to school with would be jealous of. Still unconvinced, I decided to make a concrete list of all the things I will have experienced and achieved by the time I turn 30 in August. And then, because merely writing something down for myself could never be enough, I naturally decided that I also had to blog about my experiences. There’s something about posting things on my blog that makes them feel that much more real to me (and plus it gives me an excuse to go through all my old photos, which is almost like experiencing the things I’ve done all over again).

And now that the explanation of why I’m doing this is a million miles long, I think I’ll put the actual list in a separate blog post. Or possibly even split it into sections and make a series of it. I’ve already started writing my list on paper (I would be finished if new things didn’t keep occurring to me!) and will be transferring it to the blog soon. Watch this space!

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Author: bevchen

No longer twenty-something, but still unmarried and unchildrened, English girl currently living in Germany. I work at a translation company and am slightly obsessed with books and travel. I also cross stitch.

16 thoughts on “Things I HAVE done before 30

  1. You should definitely do a second list – I think you’ll realize you’ve done a lot more than you think! It’s your time, I just know it!

  2. I can identify with wanting to think positive. But then I am also told that people who write these cutesy, happy things, may not actually be feeling as chipper about them as they show. So both these things done together, maybe we could feel better? :-) I just realised that I just have 40 odd days for my 30th. Damn!

  3. Gosh yes … overachievers have a way of making one feel insignificant don’t they? You just have to pull yourself together give the offender a mental slap and tell them to stop showing off in front of the class. I’m not good at celebrating my achievements, not good at all. But I’ve realised I don’t have to be – I do things for me and trust my restlessness and occasional feelings of discontent to kick me into touch if things get too stale. I don’t know you, but even I could start your list – you are educated, talented, bi-lingual (or better – sorry if I haven’t been paying attention), an engaging writer, are living and working abroad (makes me VERY envious), you appreciate beautiful places and objects, and you have this wonderful detailed record of these years of your life. PS … 30 is good. Very good xx

    • Thank you :-) The list is coming very soon.

      Yes, bi-lingual. I still want to learn new languages though.

      I have to keep reminding myself that living abroad isn’t something everybody does and can actually be counted as an achievment! (It will be on the list). The novelty of being in Germany has worn off to the extent that I don’t automatically think of it as something out of the ordinary any more!

  4. OK – so you may have to re-phrase those points above to make them achievements rather than qualities.

  5. I love your being positive posts! they make me feel more positive too!

  6. Mmmm … Daniel Day-Lewis probably doesn’t think winning Oscars is anything out of the ordinary either :-)))

  7. I get this way too… feel sucky reading or listening to other people list their accomplishments and wonder what the hell I’ve been doing all this time. Why nothing special or exciting ever happens to me?

    And then I mentally slap myself silly. I’m glad you stopped yourself, too, and chose to look at it differently.

    You’re doing lots of wonderful things in your life! I love reading about them. They don’t have to sound as spectacular as the experiences of others, and that’s okay.

    P.S. I love what Elaine said. Ha ha! I agree with her in that you’re an engaging writer. :-)

  8. The trick to sounding like him is to be contented with your lot. That doesn’t have to stop you doing the so-called big things, but it allows you to enjoy the ride, instead of yearning for the destination :)

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