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Resolutions 2014 (and a recap of last year’s)

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I was going to start telling you all about Madeira today, but the computer is refusing to register the fact that the card reader is plugged in and contains a memory card, so resolutions it is. First, a recap of last year’s (which you can read about in detail here if you so desire):

  1. Get back to doing my exercise DVD. Nope! Failed on this one. But I did start doing sit ups and jogging on the spot, so that’s better than nothing…
  2. Keep on top of the housework better. Hahaha. As if! I kept this up until about mid-February (which has to be some kind of record, to be fair) then decided at various points in the year that I really, really would make an effort to keep the place tidy from now on… it never lasted longer than two weeks though.
  3. Become a better translator. I’m pretty sure my style is still terrible, but I have at least got faster. And this year I’ll be doing all the translations anyway, including the ones that need to “sound good” as well as being correct. My colleague is now on maternity leave for the next year so I’m the only one left to do them! Hopefully there won’t be any complaints…
  4. Finish visiting 30 German towns before I turn 30 and blog about them. Yessssss! This one I actually did, and great fun it was too! You can find a page with all the towns I visited under “Places I have been” at the top.
  5. Save up and do some OU courses. I saved up, but actually spent the money on flights to Madeira (they were expensive!). I did make a list of the OU courses I want to do though, so maybe some time I’ll actually get round to them…

That was all my resolutions for 2013, and I managed to keep a grand total of one out of five. Ooops! Maybe I’ll do better in 2014? Here are my resolutions for this year:

  1. Travel more. Looking at my review of 2013, I did actually travel quite a bit… but it wasn’t enough! This year, I want to make even more of an effort to at least go on day trips. Participating in the Take 12 Trips challenge should help with this one.
  2. Keep not biting my nails. For years and years, my New Year’s resolution was to stop biting my nails, until I finally realised that I was doomed to not keep that one. But when I had my wisdom teeth out this year, I managed to grow my nails simply because I was physically incapable of biting them! I’ve managed to keep most of them long since then (the others were victims of splitting and snapping.. how does everyone else avoid that?!), so this year my resolution is to try and keep them unbitten!
  3. Enjoy the time I have with my boyfriend and stop worrying so much about the future. I’ve decided to stay with Jan, despite the fact that he still doesn’t know what he wants and it’s looking less and less likely that I will ever have children. But even if I leave him, there’s no guarantee that I’ll a) find someone else. b) find someone else who wants to have children (either at all or with me) and c) even be able to have children. The few weeks before Christmas were fantastic and I was really happy… and I don’t want to throw away that happieness just because some arbitrary deadline has arrived. So I want to try and enjoy what we have and not worry about whether I will ever have children. I’m too late to be a young mother anyway, so even if it happens I’ll already be the kind of parent I never wanted to be!

That’s all. Only three this year… I think that’s enough considering I still have my 35 before 35 list to be working on as well! And what about you? Any resolutions for 2014? Or have you taken the more sensible route of not setting yourself goals so early in the year? ;-)

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Author: bevchen

No longer twenty-something, but still unmarried and unchildrened, English girl currently living in Germany. I work at a translation company and am slightly obsessed with books and travel. I also cross stitch.

25 thoughts on “Resolutions 2014 (and a recap of last year’s)

  1. The housework the housework… the bane of my life… if only I spent the time I worry over it ACTUALLY doing it instead, the problem would be solved. (This is not my best-constructed sentence ever, but you get the gist).
    What OU courses do you have your eye on?

    • Loads of the short courses… because those are the only ones I can afford! I was looking at Inside Nuclear Energy, but that’s being run for the last time in April 2014 so I would have to commit to it now. Other than that there’s one called “Volcanoes, Earthquakes and Tsunamis” that looks interesting and I like the look of “Living without oil: chemistry for a sustainable future”, but that’s on for the final time in October 2014 so I would definitely have to do it this year! I would love to do some of the 60 point modules, but at £2562 it just isn’t going to happen!

  2. I think 30 is still too young to have kids ;) You have plenty of time! You’re not exactly decrepit ;) My only resolution – but it’s more like grim determination really – is to leave Latvia this year. I’ve said it before but this time, I MEAN IT! Oh, and watch more movies ;) In another country, hopefully!

    • My mum was 20 when she had me… I wouldn’t have wanted to have kids that young, but I have such a great relationship with her now and she’s still young enough that we can go out drinking together. I would have loved to have that with my kids, but even if I had one this year, I’d be nearly 50 by the time they’re even old enough to drink! Plus I love the fact that I still have three grandparents… the longer I leave it to have kids, the less likely that my parents will be around long enough for my children to have a relationship with them.

      • I am with you on the statement that you the older you get before you have kids the older you are when they are grown up. But that mustn’t stop you. My Mom was 38 when she got me. We went out together, we went on holiday together only 4 years back to USA for 4 weeks traveling. The number on the paper doesn’t count. You can still be a young person even if you are older on paper.
        I never wanted kids. Now I want them and I am worried about the right time as I am turning 32 in short time. I know you can’t plan when to get kids – especially as it can happen that I will not get pregnant at all – but the plan is now to start trying middle to end of this year. Which means I will be 33 when I get my first baby.
        But I stopped being worried about age a while ago. You can have kids with 25 and have 4 grandparents and then suddenly two of them have an accident and die or get ill. You never know.
        So,… you have all the time you want to give yourself. And maybe in one or two years’ time Jan will realize he wants kids too.

      • Jan already does want kids… he’s just not sure whether he wants them with me.

    • So you’re serious, Linda? You really plan on leaving?

      • Yep! I’d leave tomorrow if I could but work commitments etc are keeping me here for now! I was thinking about it anyway but this whole ‘infamy’ thing has just sped things up a little!

  3. Not that you asked my opinion, but if he really makes you happy and you love him, really love him, then you should stay. You are still so young. I’m a firm believer that everything works out as it should. I definitely see your point about having a child at a younger age, but if that is the direction life takes you, when you have that child it won’t matter. And 50 isn’t old! :-)

    • He does make me happy, and I do really love him… but I’m afraid that I don’t make HIM happy. The fact that he doesn’t know what he wants suggests to me that whatever it is, I’m not it.

      My mum is 50… I would never dare say 50 is old ;-) But my mum is 50 with three grown up children, which to me is very different to being 50 with your FIRST child only just finishing school.

  4. Good luk with your resolutions. The best decision is to follow your gut feelings; they rarely get things wrong. No resolutions here – we suggested resolutions for each other, and the family all told me they wanted me to spend less time blogging. That’ll teach me to come up with stupid ideas. :-D

  5. Well done for being successful with one of your resolutions from last year! I think that is quite an achievement. :) No resolutions here, because I think I would just break them straight away…

  6. I think the main thing is that he makes you happy and that you love him. I hope you can figure the baby thing out. You are still young and there is time and I am sure there will be a solution at some point!

  7. Haha no goals for me, other than maintaining my barely achieved sense of calm that I have right now. I’m returning to work tomorrow after a 2 week hiatus and yet my house is still a mess and I haven’t even put away the groceries I barely managed to buy today. Yikes! 2014 is shaping up to look a lot like 2013 ;)

  8. If you want to stay with him – then stay (not just because you fear the alternatives)…and anyone heard of “adoption”?

    • Yes, I have heard of adoption and would consider it if I find out I can’t have kids, but I want my own! Also, he’s not sure whether he wants to raise children with me… whether they’re our own or adopted makes no difference there!

  9. I like your resolutions, more about being content than goal setting.

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