Life is short

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Yesterday, someone I went to school with passed away. This is actually already the second death of a person from our year group this year (and we’re not even 40 yet!), but the first was someone I never had much to do with. This woman is someone I hung around with in sixth form… I helped her get together with a boy she liked, who she later went on to marry and have children with. He’s now her widower, which is so weird to type. I knew she had been in hospital recently, but just a week ago, in response to someone offering to visit, she said she would be going home the next morning. From comments, I see that people who are in regular contact with her thought she had been getting better.

I don’t want to hijack her family and friends’ grief, which is why I’m posting on my blog (which, as far as I know, only one person from school actually knows about – and she wasn’t in our year). Having left that town as quickly as I could after high school, I hadn’t actually spoken to this girl in person since leaving sixth form, so I can’t claim to be devastated by her death. I was, however, shocked to read about it. We communicated occasionally on Facebook. I enjoyed looking at her photos of her (still quite young) children. So for her to just suddenly be gone, after such a short illness, has really brought home to me how short life is and that we really do never know what’s just around the corner. I may not have everything I want in life, but I am alive and I am healthy. It shouldn’t take the loss of someone else to remind me of that.

I wanted to insert some meaningful quote here, but I can neither think of nor find one, so I will just leave it at that. Life is precious, friends. Don’t take it for granted.

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16 thoughts on “Life is short

  1. These are wise words. We should cherish our nearest and dearest, for we are blessed to have them. True love and friendship means more than just clicking “like” on a Facebook post.

    1. I am definitely guilty of sometimes just clicking “like” on a Facebook post rather than reaching out and sending someone a proper message. It’s sad that it takes a tragedy to make me stop and think that I should do more.

  2. In my experience, the level to which a death affects you is not always proportional to how involved you were in that person’s life. Sometimes the death of an acquaintance can have a much stronger effect than you would have expected. It’s good to take stock every so often, and I agree with what you said above- every time I attend another funeral (and there have been many,) I always come away with the feeling that it shouldn’t take another death to get me thinking about how my own life is going.

    My condolences, Bev, on the loss of your friend.

  3. How very sad. The death of anyone you know or knew always has an effect on you, if only to bring home your own mortality. My ex-uni boyfriend, with whom I lost touch after we were both married and he and his wife moved away from the area, died at the age of 42, more than 20 years ago. Although I had ended the relationship and hadn’t seen him for more than 10 years, I was very upset; it felt as if part of my past had been closed forever. Yes, life is precious and it is very short and I for one am trying to do all the things I’d like to achieve whilst my husband and I am still have relatively good health, since we do not know what is round the corner.

  4. It’s very true what you say in your conclusion. I am sorry that someone you knew has died. It is quite shocking when that happens, isn’t it. Even if we aren’t in touch, knowing that someone is not here anymore does make an impact and makes us aware of our own mortality as well as feeling sorrow for them and those they leave behind.x

  5. What a sad story. I don’t think you’re “hijacking” ….happens to us all. Last week a business acquaintance in her thirties told me she has serious bowel cancer, she has two young kids. I was genuinely upset even though I hardly know her

  6. I’m sorry for the loss of your friend. This is a weird season of life because my peer group is dying early and our parents are starting to go early/ontime. Facebook is a blessing and a curse because you learn about the deaths within a decent amount of time, as opposed the old class-reunion way of learning a bunch every 5 years. I’m not sure which is better.

  7. Such things do make you stop and think. Life is precious, and we should be grateful for what we have, because it could all be gone much sooner than we think.
    I’m sorry for your loss, death at a young age seems so cruel and unjust.
    xx

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